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Ana
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Hi there, I need an answer from you guys am I am very confused with my life recently. I separated from my husband of 8 yrs (7 year old son together), he used me all these years for my money, I have a decent job, and I support my son my mom and I supported him up until now. I am scared...confused if i should continue to rent this very expensive townhome or get a cheaper place, got a dog-in trouble with landlord, No dog allowed (I should've looked at the lease agreement better, lol) My job at the local hospital is only 2 miles away. To move to a "cheaper place" costs, my son is very familiar with the area, should I toughen up and stay here until he finishes elementary? I'd like your opinion please, I'm very very personal and I don't share my personal life with anybody, it's that bad:(
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JamesKim
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I agree with coaster. Best thing to do is to do nothing because it seems like you're financially stabled. The dog thing, try to work something about with the landlord. Personally, I remember my parents talking about moving when I was in elementary school. 18 years later, they moved lol (After graduating highschool) haha. I'm glad that they didn't move. But it all depends on the environment. Does you son like the school, have close friends, good neighborhood, etc... Being financially stable is a huge component of all this.
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Fri May 27, 2011 12:02 am |
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eastmn
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Just want to say that you may need to take some steps
so that you wont make the same mistakes again.
Maybe come up with a checklist  and maybe make
it a point to refer to checklist periodically.
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Fri May 27, 2011 11:38 pm |
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jeffreymint
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Take it easy and make all your decisions final. Small steps and yet sure. This is a good start and will be better in the long run.
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Tue May 31, 2011 2:10 pm |
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cccfree
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Well if you have full custody of your child than you should be getting some sort of child support.
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Thu Jun 09, 2011 12:01 am |
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quote:
Originally posted by JamesKim
I agree with coaster. Best thing to do is to do nothing because it seems like you're financially stabled. The dog thing, try to work something about with the landlord. Personally, I remember my parents talking about moving when I was in elementary school. 18 years later, they moved lol (After graduating highschool) haha. I'm glad that they didn't move. But it all depends on the environment. Does you son like the school, have close friends, good neighborhood, etc... Being financially stable is a huge component of all this.
Awesome advise! You should have your own show... Dr. Coaster 
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Thu Jul 14, 2011 7:02 pm |
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Sad,
I am hearing the same issues from more and more as this economic collapse impacts more and more families. My advice is always the same, don't make a snap decision of importance.
In this case, you are fortunately emplyed and earning enough to cover expenses, but you have to start to plan ahead and wasting money on a large over the top townhome is not smart given so many uncertainties in this market.
With all the foreclosures, keep your eye out for a better townhome that suits your situation, whether it is keeping your children in same school or whatever, just don't rush it. Also, from my experience, changing schools is not that important for young children like yours, so don't let this make your decision. Kids adjust better than we think as parents. It gets more important when your kids hit teenager status.
Always plan ahead for you never know what tomorrow brings. Cutting expenses and saving the difference to support any emergencies is always the best advice. Just take your time and when the stress eases up, the decisions will be easier to make.
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Wed Sep 07, 2011 1:43 pm |
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Gary Barzel
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Being that you're not supporting your husband any more hopefully it will help you save up a little more, or at least make it easier on your bills. I would suggest you create a budget, it'll help make it easier for you to see how much money you have, and where it has to go, as well as prevent unnecessary spending.
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Wed Sep 07, 2011 2:48 pm |
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Jenny1988
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Had been there, things will truing well, no need to worry too much.
i would rather not to choose moving to another places, for the child sake.
He experiencing big changes, moving may increase the pressure for him.
If the kid want to move, that would be different.
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Thu Sep 08, 2011 2:35 am |
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globaldoc2001
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I think it depends how cheap it will be as compared to your place at present. There may be side effects. It may not be as easy as you think, or it can be better. It really depends.
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Thu Sep 08, 2011 6:04 am |
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zenpkr
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quote:
Originally posted by Ana
My job at the local hospital is only 2 miles away. To move to a "cheaper place" costs, my son is very familiar with the area, should I toughen up and stay here until he finishes elementary?
Seems like you live in a good area, why move now? IF you can afford it stay
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Fri Sep 09, 2011 2:29 pm |
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Ana,
I hope your financial situation has improved since you posted this. I know a major life change can often cause a lot of upset.
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Fri Sep 09, 2011 5:54 pm |
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globaldoc2001
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I hope to add something. My wish is that you get right back on track to a renewed relationship. There is a saying, that love is lovelier the second time around.
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