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financechoices
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I've read recently that a lot of people don't trust their spouse with their money. So I got to thinking. Does anyone here have a secret stash of money tucked away that no one else knows about?
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Tue Nov 01, 2005 9:59 am |
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Rolo
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HEY EULER, YOU still think this would be a 'money problem'? 
No secret stash, just a post-nup.
"Expect me when you see me."
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Wed Nov 02, 2005 1:04 am |
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Euler
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What a shame to be unable to trust your partner with money. I don't have this problem, I imagine it's hell. Certainly any well written contract can diminish risk, but that's no magic bullet. Far better to grow your relationship to the point where trust is a priority - respect, honesty, forgiveness, productivity - all are related and require consistent affirmation untill they become second nature. At least, this is the way in my home.
Secret stashes are a great idea though. Maintaining a secret sash implies budget control, discipline and an income greater than expenses. If you are in that kinda situation, why make it secret? Maybe for a birthday or some other surprise you are saving for. I like to sock away an extra burst of cash for the holidays. No telling what Santa may need to get the job done.
Nothing can take the place of trust.
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Wed Nov 02, 2005 5:52 pm |
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Rolo
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quote:
Originally posted by Euler
Certainly any well written contract can diminish risk...
...and enable me to trust...I don't have to worry about it. I don't have to worry about what I've seen so many women do: "I'll take him for everything he's got!"
You can only mitigate that risk to a limited extent and I don't see an Efficient Frontier for interpersonal relationships.
It's that or nothing; I'm cool with either.
"Expect me when you see me."
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Thu Nov 03, 2005 3:07 am |
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ushomeloans
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I do from my girl friend, not wife, but still I think it is a great idea. Both should have a slush fund, so they dont question where the money goes on everything. A type of allowance, maybe just 100 dollars a month, would prevent a lot of fights. And isnt money problems the number one reason for divorce?
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Mon Nov 07, 2005 10:09 pm |
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Euler
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I'd say money problems are a common symptom of the leading cause for divorce.
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I hate these ads, Andrew. They tax my machine. Also, I don't particularly believe that the lady fanning her fart will actually GIVE me a free ipod nano.
It's a major trust issue and I think I want to divorce her.
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Mon Nov 07, 2005 10:30 pm |
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Rolo
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quote:
Originally posted by Euler
I'd say money problems are a common symptom of the leading cause for divorce.
HOLY COW! What is this, THREE things I totally agree with you about? 
symptom...yes...indeed....lest we substitute Andrew Jackson with a pentagram and a goat's head...scapegoat.
"Expect me when you see me."
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Tue Nov 08, 2005 12:36 am |
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StudentR
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I've got my secret stash ) My own safe under bed...my preciouss
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Tue Nov 08, 2005 11:45 am |
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Doro Ajani
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I've already developed a stash or two, so by the time I get married I will have long developed the consistent disciplined practice of maintaining it....
I'll probably walk her through setting up her own stash... 
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Sun Nov 13, 2005 4:35 pm |
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ashraf
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That behaviour is certainly related to the beliefs and the culture of the partners involved. But I don't understand why you have to hide your financial affairs from your lifetime partner!. Aren't spouses supposed to be open about their money matters that affect their household?.
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Thu Dec 15, 2005 9:58 am |
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Euler
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I agree, Ashraf.
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Fri Dec 16, 2005 12:03 am |
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mir322
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My husband and I have talked about doing this....you never know when you'll need to just have immediate access to money.
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Sun Jan 08, 2006 4:14 am |
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DanielB88
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funny thread =)
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Sun Jan 08, 2006 4:15 am |
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I don't consider it a secret stash, but I do keep a couple hundred from my Internet Income in my pocket for those spontaneous splurges. My wife often smiles real big when I whip out cash to pay for a lunch stop and she doesn't have to see it hit the credit card statement.
She can say the same thing about the money she earns from her 'Stampin Up business. She keeps it in a separate account and I don't even sneak a peek. When she wants to take a trip to an annual convention, I know it won't be having any impact on next months bills.
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