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Fiero
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My wife is much more responsible with money than I am... or at least was when we first got married. We really didn't discuss money actually. We're both pretty independant, and when we got married, we just split the bills 50/50 at the time.
We've been married for about 4 years now, and we still both have seperate accounts.
She has a checking account, and I have a checking account, and we both have a joint account that I transfer money into. We now have a child so she only works 1 day a week for spending money. Basically, she tells me how much she needs, and I transfer it into the account and she handles all the payment for the bills.
We both sat down a couple of times to just set up a game plan of how we were going to move forward with each situation in order to make best use of our money and our setup. We both personally like the idea of having seperate accounts simply because then I only have to worry about my personal finances, and she only has to worry about her personal finances. The way I see it, all the money is ours, basically... the fact that we have two accounts is for no other reason than the fact that it's easier for us to stay organized that way.
We're both pretty easy going, so it wasn't difficult for us to work it out. Like all couples, we have our blow-ups, but we get over stuff quickly.
Having a conversation probably would have been a good thing, but I don't think in our unique case, it would have really improved or worsened anything.
I think the underlying issue here is communication, not specifically the financies. If you can't communicate, then it doesn't really matter whether it has to do with money, or anything else.
Todd
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Tue Sep 29, 2009 5:32 pm |
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Avino
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When you go to get married, any two individuals can walk into a city hall with proper ID and get married, no questions asked.
Fast forward to a divorce, and now you have to go to counseling, wait a year, discuss finances and splitting assets, custody, and a whole litany of things.
I think there is something wrong with this picture. It should be more difficult to get married than it is to get a divorce. There should be a mandatory class or sessions that couples looking to get married have to go through. Where they are educated on money matters and all of the other things that go into making a marriage successful.
I know I know, I said the word mandatory and god forbid anything is ever made mandatory, but like I said look at all the bull people have to go through to get a divorce, I rather put that on the front end to make sure people getting married are really ready to get married and those getting divorces are doing it because it really didn't work out and they want to move on.
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Tue Sep 29, 2009 6:46 pm |
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LottomagicZ4941
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quote:
Originally posted by Avino
When you go to get married, any two individuals can walk into a city hall with proper ID and get married, no questions asked.
Fast forward to a divorce, and now you have to go to counseling, wait a year, discuss finances and splitting assets, custody, and a whole litany of things.
I think there is something wrong with this picture. It should be more difficult to get married than it is to get a divorce. There should be a mandatory class or sessions that couples looking to get married have to go through. Where they are educated on money matters and all of the other things that go into making a marriage successful.
I know I know, I said the word mandatory and god forbid anything is ever made mandatory, but like I said look at all the bull people have to go through to get a divorce, I rather put that on the front end to make sure people getting married are really ready to get married and those getting divorces are doing it because it really didn't work out and they want to move on.
Perhaps there would be less divorces if it were harder to get married. That sluty website that adverts, "Marrage is the leading cause of divorce is a riot."
Unless there is some form of cheating or abuse a person shouldn't be just able to walk away from a marrage. THe victim partner should get something other then a divorce. One guy got garnished before the divorce was even final and his wife just wanted to start over and got prego by a guy over a decade younger then herself. How messed up is that?
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